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Managing Your Mental Health during a Divorce

Harding Law Firm - Tuesday, December 15, 2015


—Useful Tips from a Divorce Lawyer for the Holidays

Divorce is a serious lifestyle change; and one that most people are not prepared for. When the holidays roll around, you will be dealing with the stress of the holidays themselves, but also coping with your life post-divorce. Even if your divorce is not final, it can be hard to maintain your sanity during the hustle and bustle of the holiday season and still maintain a calm exterior for everyone involved in the divorce process. Luckily, there are things you can do to manage your stress level and hopefully, enjoy the holidays a little with loved ones and friends.

Tips for Enjoying the Holidays During or After a Divorce

From family dinners to holiday traditions, there will be a lot of reminders that your life has changed during Christmas and New Year’s. To make the most out of this year’s holiday season, consider some of these tips:

  • Make an Attitude Adjustment - Instead of dreading the upcoming holidays, embrace them. Do not worry that the holidays will be different; instead, take advantage of the opportunity to create your own traditions and toss out the ones that you never liked anyway.
  • Go Year by Year - The first year during or after a divorce is the hardest. So, instead of thinking about years to come, just take each year as it rolls in. You do not have to go all out this holiday either; do what you feel like and then next year, do the same.
  • Keep the Kids Involved - Whether your children are grown up with their own kids or still living at home, including them in the festivities and holiday planning will help. Maintain holiday traditions you have with your children and ask them what they would like to incorporate this year.
  • Think About Traditions - See what traditions of the past you can keep and perhaps make a list of those traditions and how they have helped you all enjoy the holidays together. Then, sit down with the kids and decide which traditions you want to still continue.
  • Set Boundaries - Be very clear to family and friends as to what you can and cannot do this holiday season. If you are engrossed in court hearings or you just need a break, do not let others coax you into taking on more than you can. It is okay to say “no” when you need a break.
  • Do Not Isolate - No matter what you do, do not isolate yourself during the holidays. Surround yourself with a support network of family and friends so that the holidays become a little easier.

The holidays are tough if you are considering divorce during the season of festive joy. You will want a divorce attorney by your side to help reduce that stress.

Speak with the divorce attorneys at the Harding Law Firm regarding your divorce.  Contact Charles Harding for a free consultation. You can also call us at 518-384-3400